Marriage: A Delightfully Difficult Mountain to Climb
We celebrated our first anniversary this week. Despite the cold weather and the anniversary falling on a Monday, the blues had nothing on us. Nonetheless, our home was filled with warmth by our palpable excitement, hearty waves of laughter, and thanksgiving as we reminisced the journey to the wedding and our marriage afterward. Join me as I jot down my musings from the past year …
1. God is Faithful
As I reflected on our wedding day and the year that has been, one keyword repeatedly came to mind: faithfulness … God’s faithfulness for our good and His own glory.
Similarly in the Bible, we see prophets pleading to God’s covenant-keeping mercy, for our sake, but ultimately for his own name’s sake.
“If we are faithless, he remains faithful—for he cannot deny himself.”
“Do not spurn us, for your name’s sake; do not dishonor your glorious throne; remember and do not break your covenant with us.”
We are learning that marriage, like brotherhood, is grace supplied for adversity (Proverbs 17:17). Through the hard and easy times, sorrows and joys, highs and lows, happiness and sadness. In contrast to our feelings which ebb and flow, God’s faithfulness remains constant, for our joy, and ultimately for his name’s sake. Only he can continue keeping us in this union, faithfully, as he has done in the past year.
2. The Vows are Weighty
“I, Eve Muthoni,
Take you Huston Malande,
To be my God-given husband,
To have and to hold you,
From this day forward,
In joy and in sorrow,
During prosperity and times of difficulty,
In health and sickness,
To love and submit to you according to God’s word,
Until death do us part,
God being my helper.”
I meditated anew on the WEIGHT of the vows we made.
In the course of courtship, the mysteriousness of the vows that usher in the unknown can be enthralling. However, in marriage, the vows having tasted the tip of trials, are no longer just mere promises but weighty commitments.
Knowing that we can do nothing apart from Jesus Christ (John 15:5), including the keeping of our vows, wisdom demands that we rely entirely and wholly on the institutor of marriage in our daily strivings to keep these vows. We are trusting our known to the One who knows all things.
Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.Corrie Ten Boom
3. The Gospel is Liberating
God designed marriage to reflect the Gospel: the relationship of Christ—who is the bridegroom, and the church—who is his blood-bought bride. What a privilege and daunting prerogative it is to be a partaker of this relationship that mirrors this profound, life-changing mystery.
“…fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
God’s promise to strengthen, help, and teach us how to live in light of this prerogative has been encouraging when the task seemed daunting and soothing whenever we have fallen short.
4. Eternity is Everything
I’m grateful for those who have gone before us. Hat tip for the nuggets of wisdom. For those who are walking alongside us, let us keep on keeping on. Those who will come after us, may Christ continue holding us all fast.
I’m aware that God’s grace has been working in and through us in the first year. We pray that He will continue working through us until we cross the threshold of time to eternity.
“But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace toward me was not in vain. On the contrary, I worked harder than any of them, though it was not I, but the grace of God that is with me.”
Marriage, a gracious gift, does not ultimately satisfy. Instead, it makes us long for eternity. For that reason, as long as we’re on this side of “till death do us part,” this is my prayer:
“Lord stamp eternity on our eyeballs and allow us to see our marriage (and all other things in our lives) through the lens of what you did on the cross and continue doing as a result.”
This one year has been a delightful mountain to climb.
Onwards and upwards, for his glory!